I am writing this Blog to let people know how people in society can get away with things and no one is able to do anything about it.
I met my wife Mary in Walla Walla she has 2 sisters and 2 Brothers total of 5 people in the family.
What may shock you is that they are keeping a little secret. There Dad Orvil Doward Wilson located at 135 Whiman in Walla Walla WA has a sexual problem with children and adults.
When I met Mary she had told me all the problems that has happened in her family.
She told me as well as a friend named Cathy that her dad molested a foster child that was living with them. Is this True? Yes. Is this a secret? Yes. God says the truth should set you free. So I am telling the truth, so I and other can be set free from this Issue.
Has he molested adults? Yes. Mary and I were living at there home for a short while. Orvil her father one day decides to proceed to fondle Mary while I was at work. Mary was sleeping at the time and her dad went to where she was sleeping and decide to sexually fondle her. Will she ever admit this to anyone? She has admitted to a friend and me and she has decided to keep this a secret. Would she ever go to Child Protective Services and report this. No because she want to protect her dad. I don’t blame her to protect your father is a noble thing to do. To protect someone will only hinder that person from doing something again. Protect the good not the Bad.
Mr. Wilson was a work at the Walla Walla Penitentiary and he is very knowledgeable about the law and what he can get away with. Can this man ever be stop? Not unless people tell the truth. The whole Wilson family is aware of this truth.
Why am I discussing this? Because I have 4 kids, 3 boys and 1 girl who will be next on the Fathers list. Why is he doing this? I believe he has a problem with his on marriage to go out and try to involve being sexual with anyone else other than his wife. That’s my guess. But what ever the reason is he probably will never have anything happen to him because none of the kids will stand up and tell the truth about there dad.
I have called CPS and nothing can be done. I have done what I can to make sure my kids don’t have to come to there faith that there grand father might want to molest them when they are children or adults. I cannot stop him. I can only put it in Gods hands to prevent more tragedy from happening.
What can you do to help?
Probably nothing, because the secret will be there until only the family reveals it or he molest more. I don’t want this to happen but it might. This person needs help but he will probably not get it because this person has never revealed that it is a problem. The Family never reveled it is a problem either. The problem will always be there because no one is willing to face up to the issues.
Thanks for listening.
Sunday, August 10, 2008
Your spouse is not your enemy.
Every Marriage is either moving toward oneness or drifting toward complete isolation.
When we are married to another person after a while the relationship of complete oneness with that other person gets difficult and what was wedding bliss might turn in to unhappiness and unfairness and we look at the other person in our life as an enemy but they are not. The real enemy is we.
The world put marriage as a 50/50 relationship performance. We accept another person based on this performance of “ You do your part and I’ll do mine.”
After a while 50/50 then turns out to be 30/40, 20/10 or 0/0 sometimes someone wins or both couple losses. We depend on the responsibility of our marriage is based sole on the other person and how they do there part.
Selfish desires and the Self-Contends turn our seeming joyful experience of oneness into hardship and trouble.
I went to a Seminar put on by family life today that stress how the devils goal is to turn husband, wife’s and family members against each other to create confusion and destruction in the there lives.
We have unreal expectations of marriage we tend to look at the weaknesses in our spouse in the relationship and focus on those things that disappoint us about the other person. We might seek revenge for past pain we also feel that the other person hasn’t held up to there bargain in a relationship.
These things lead to difficulties in the marriage or relationship. Instead we as human fail to too at problems and difficulty that might arise in a relationship a tend to not know how to respond. The response to difficult times can either drive the relationship or together. To suppress or escape from the problem is common and to blame and attack each other is usually done.
Moving thought these times without rejecting or withdrawing from oneness with a spouse is important in keeping a relationship going.
Isolation is the devils goal. The Me Me me factor comes into play and we try to change others to show them how much they should be like us. We all are different in our own ways but when the goal is to be in harmony with each other, the turmoil’s of ME ME ME comes into place.
What we adapt to be a life that leads us to destruction I have seen this type of life style in my spouse that made me look at life from a different point of view. When I was married I began to see a continued life of the person I was with began to change to the worst. The person I married was not my enemy but the evil with in her was. When you marry a person you marry them for enormous amount of reason I would not go into. But I married my wife because not what God wanted for me but what I wanted for myself.
I never thought that the evil of life would put me where I am today. What I have learned from the experience is that making choices in life is based on self-sacrifice based on the ability to have a covenant relationship with another. Making a relationship works takes to parts the giving and taking. The knowledge of you mate is important in knowing how to love and be loved. Take time to know the person that you are with. Don’t make that person your enemy.
When we are married to another person after a while the relationship of complete oneness with that other person gets difficult and what was wedding bliss might turn in to unhappiness and unfairness and we look at the other person in our life as an enemy but they are not. The real enemy is we.
The world put marriage as a 50/50 relationship performance. We accept another person based on this performance of “ You do your part and I’ll do mine.”
After a while 50/50 then turns out to be 30/40, 20/10 or 0/0 sometimes someone wins or both couple losses. We depend on the responsibility of our marriage is based sole on the other person and how they do there part.
Selfish desires and the Self-Contends turn our seeming joyful experience of oneness into hardship and trouble.
I went to a Seminar put on by family life today that stress how the devils goal is to turn husband, wife’s and family members against each other to create confusion and destruction in the there lives.
We have unreal expectations of marriage we tend to look at the weaknesses in our spouse in the relationship and focus on those things that disappoint us about the other person. We might seek revenge for past pain we also feel that the other person hasn’t held up to there bargain in a relationship.
These things lead to difficulties in the marriage or relationship. Instead we as human fail to too at problems and difficulty that might arise in a relationship a tend to not know how to respond. The response to difficult times can either drive the relationship or together. To suppress or escape from the problem is common and to blame and attack each other is usually done.
Moving thought these times without rejecting or withdrawing from oneness with a spouse is important in keeping a relationship going.
Isolation is the devils goal. The Me Me me factor comes into play and we try to change others to show them how much they should be like us. We all are different in our own ways but when the goal is to be in harmony with each other, the turmoil’s of ME ME ME comes into place.
What we adapt to be a life that leads us to destruction I have seen this type of life style in my spouse that made me look at life from a different point of view. When I was married I began to see a continued life of the person I was with began to change to the worst. The person I married was not my enemy but the evil with in her was. When you marry a person you marry them for enormous amount of reason I would not go into. But I married my wife because not what God wanted for me but what I wanted for myself.
I never thought that the evil of life would put me where I am today. What I have learned from the experience is that making choices in life is based on self-sacrifice based on the ability to have a covenant relationship with another. Making a relationship works takes to parts the giving and taking. The knowledge of you mate is important in knowing how to love and be loved. Take time to know the person that you are with. Don’t make that person your enemy.
Abandonment or take it like a man
On June 29, 2007 I left my wife Mary of 10 years because of abuse. Today I am on the road to recovery. Most men would of not done what I did because our society thinks men should take it and stand up to abuse and be a man and deal with it. In that case I am less than a man. When you talk to these types of men. We treat women in an abusive situation and tell them to leave but we have a one way standard with men. Women leave but men should stay.
Most people have no idea and don’t care what happens to a man just a woman because of the delicate nature of women. I can tell you today that there are women out there that are more dangerous then some men but we close our eyes to abuse when we hear about women abusing men.
The normal assumption is that the man causes a woman to be abusive. That’s not the case. Because someone gets angry with him or her or upset that does not mean hitting him or her at any point. Abuse in all forms is wrong and no matter if you are married to the person on not it is abuse. We also don’t like to admit that we are abusive because to admit it would be admitting that we are able to hurt someone, so we put on an appearance of niceness on our face. I have seen abuse in many forms and I have read books on abuse and I think that it’s the most horrible thing you can do to the human body.
If someone is abusing you then you need to get help. There are resources on line that are willing to help people that have been abused. Stop the abuse before it goes to far.
My story goes like this; I never came from an abusive household. I have not been sexually, physically abused as a child. I have no tendency to hit a person at any time for no reason at all. Several counselors and professional have elevated me and I do not have characteristics of being an abusive person or personality.
I do have codependent tendencies, which is the main problem why I got into an abusive relationship. Abuse in a marriage happens both ways. A person that is abusing the other get abused back because that person that receives the abuse sees it as a way to stop the abuse from that person. It never stops by doing the same thing back; you don’t solve abuse by abuse.
When I left Mary I new that was the only way I can escape from the abuse. Mary had abused me several times while we were married. I admit that I hit her back at times to get her to understand what she was doing to me and it did not work because abuse never stop by me hitting her back. I did not want to hit her but if a person hits you rapidly several times even after you told them to stop you tend to wonder if your words of no hitting or Stop has any lasting effect with the person you are talking to.
Last year Mary made some big mistakes. One mistake is that she abused me at my work location. I work for customer service at Verizon Wireless and she was so angry with me for telling her that if she does not stop smoking then I would have to divorce her because I have sinus problems and cigarette smell effects me. I cannot live with a smoker in my life and at the time I married Mary she was not a smoker and she new that I did not agree with cigarettes. For example if someone knows you are allergic to cats would you buy them a cat? You would not unless you want to hurt that person. Mary knew that I had an issue with smoking, so she began to smoke to hurt me. This is abusive. Willfully doing something to hurt the other person. So Mary was angry with me so she stole my car from work and drove it to a far off place and proceeds to smoke in my car and distribute the cigarette butts all over my dashboard. That same night she proceeds to hit me rapidly on the legs when I got home.
This brings me to the point of abandonment. Now I want you to understand this women have physically abused me and she never at any point in her life ever admitted that she ever abused me even when I had a police report and went to court and filed a restraining order. Not once she admitted that anything was wrong with her abuse. So in my mind if she abused me it was like it didn’t happen in her mind and I can be abused and she would never admit it. So when I left her on June 2007 it was a time when I new she was going to abuse me. I already warned her that I was going to leave if she does not stop the abuse so here I am now leaving her years later. I admit it probably was not the smartest thing to do but I did it because nothing else I was doing was working. I took her to counseling and that did not work. I try to show her love and affection. That did not work. So this was the only thing that worked. Leaving gave me freedom from abuse and I would advise people to not stay in an abusive situation. Get help or leave because a person that stays with an abuser will not solve the issue by staying. Staying in the house with an abuser gives them the right to say that abuse is ok.
My job because of the police report and the abuse that she did on the work grounds they decide to move me from Washington to California where I am living now. I have been abuse free ever since I moved. Make the Choice like I did get out of the abuse it would make your life much happier.
Most people have no idea and don’t care what happens to a man just a woman because of the delicate nature of women. I can tell you today that there are women out there that are more dangerous then some men but we close our eyes to abuse when we hear about women abusing men.
The normal assumption is that the man causes a woman to be abusive. That’s not the case. Because someone gets angry with him or her or upset that does not mean hitting him or her at any point. Abuse in all forms is wrong and no matter if you are married to the person on not it is abuse. We also don’t like to admit that we are abusive because to admit it would be admitting that we are able to hurt someone, so we put on an appearance of niceness on our face. I have seen abuse in many forms and I have read books on abuse and I think that it’s the most horrible thing you can do to the human body.
If someone is abusing you then you need to get help. There are resources on line that are willing to help people that have been abused. Stop the abuse before it goes to far.
My story goes like this; I never came from an abusive household. I have not been sexually, physically abused as a child. I have no tendency to hit a person at any time for no reason at all. Several counselors and professional have elevated me and I do not have characteristics of being an abusive person or personality.
I do have codependent tendencies, which is the main problem why I got into an abusive relationship. Abuse in a marriage happens both ways. A person that is abusing the other get abused back because that person that receives the abuse sees it as a way to stop the abuse from that person. It never stops by doing the same thing back; you don’t solve abuse by abuse.
When I left Mary I new that was the only way I can escape from the abuse. Mary had abused me several times while we were married. I admit that I hit her back at times to get her to understand what she was doing to me and it did not work because abuse never stop by me hitting her back. I did not want to hit her but if a person hits you rapidly several times even after you told them to stop you tend to wonder if your words of no hitting or Stop has any lasting effect with the person you are talking to.
Last year Mary made some big mistakes. One mistake is that she abused me at my work location. I work for customer service at Verizon Wireless and she was so angry with me for telling her that if she does not stop smoking then I would have to divorce her because I have sinus problems and cigarette smell effects me. I cannot live with a smoker in my life and at the time I married Mary she was not a smoker and she new that I did not agree with cigarettes. For example if someone knows you are allergic to cats would you buy them a cat? You would not unless you want to hurt that person. Mary knew that I had an issue with smoking, so she began to smoke to hurt me. This is abusive. Willfully doing something to hurt the other person. So Mary was angry with me so she stole my car from work and drove it to a far off place and proceeds to smoke in my car and distribute the cigarette butts all over my dashboard. That same night she proceeds to hit me rapidly on the legs when I got home.
This brings me to the point of abandonment. Now I want you to understand this women have physically abused me and she never at any point in her life ever admitted that she ever abused me even when I had a police report and went to court and filed a restraining order. Not once she admitted that anything was wrong with her abuse. So in my mind if she abused me it was like it didn’t happen in her mind and I can be abused and she would never admit it. So when I left her on June 2007 it was a time when I new she was going to abuse me. I already warned her that I was going to leave if she does not stop the abuse so here I am now leaving her years later. I admit it probably was not the smartest thing to do but I did it because nothing else I was doing was working. I took her to counseling and that did not work. I try to show her love and affection. That did not work. So this was the only thing that worked. Leaving gave me freedom from abuse and I would advise people to not stay in an abusive situation. Get help or leave because a person that stays with an abuser will not solve the issue by staying. Staying in the house with an abuser gives them the right to say that abuse is ok.
My job because of the police report and the abuse that she did on the work grounds they decide to move me from Washington to California where I am living now. I have been abuse free ever since I moved. Make the Choice like I did get out of the abuse it would make your life much happier.
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